Self Simplicity

We have lost contact with reality, the simplicity of life. —Paulo Coelho Tweet this

Part of the journey of intentional self growth is becoming familiar with self simplicity. It’s a process of getting good at being simple.

In fact, I might go so far to say that self simplicity should have its finger in everything we do while traveling this journey. I do believe that it is a core ingredient to laying the foundation of self care.

I recently came across a tweet that our homes are 80% larger than they were a few decades ago, but yet, a large portion of those same homes pay for additional storage units.

There’s something wrong with this picture.

This paints a picture to physical things, but sheds light on what our society craves; more, more, more. Thinking that more is what leads to fulfillment and happiness.

Here are four areas in which you can apply self simplicity into your life to live more abundantly:

Learn to say no to things

This was a profound realization for me. The realization that I could say no to things if I wanted to; requests, invitations, etc. I used to feel like I had to say yes to everything thinking that’s what the journey to success looked like. I quickly learned that’s not the case.

The ability to say no is a big step in the self growth journey. It provides space in your life to focus on the things you value most.

Often times these commitments and obligations you agreed to do causes a lot of unnecessary stress. This ultimately bleeds into the things around you; family, work, friends, etc.

It’s okay to say no. Try it.

Eliminate distractions

I recently revamped how I use my mobile device.

I removed all notifications and removed the Facebook app; not because I dislike Facebook, but I needed to control the urge of checking my Newsfeed for the sake of checking my Newsfeed.

This was an interruption to life’s moments.

In addition, I removed all notifications from the lock screen and banners. I would find myself looking down at the face of my phone to see if I had any notifications. This was extremely distracting.

I am retraining myself on how to use my mobile device.

As the evolution of technology and communication morph there are so many things that pull us away from the present moment.

This doesn’t take away from the tremendous opportunities we have with connectivity, what it does, however, is places a greater emphasis on self control and discipline to allow ourselves to live in the present moment.

Get rid of unnecessary possessions

If it were up to me, I wouldn’t have anything on the walls in our home and I wouldn’t put anything in storage throughout our home. Not because I don’t like the decor, but because I genuinely appreciate the simplicity of bare walls and the feeling of not being cluttered.

If we need to store it (for most things) we don’t need it at all. Keeping something for the sake of one day potentially having a need for it is a sign to donate it.

Keep the things that will allow you to live each day. Unnecessary items are unnecessary burdens. When you have them, you have to take care of them.

The lighter you are the freer you feel.

Appreciate the simple things

Those tiny moments of life that we often gloss over as being mundane, boring or it’s just time passing by are often the most precious moments.

Pause, and appreciate those things; focus on the scenery, the beauty, the smells, the sounds.

Appreciate playing in the backyard, shooting hoops, going for walks, jumping in rain puddles. You’ll soon find that it’s those simple things in life that you appreciate most.

Through self simplicity you will lead an abundant life. Capture the beauty of simplicity. Tweet this

Self simplicity keeps us focused on the things that are most important to us. The things we value most. It prevents us from seeking and forces us to just be, in the moment, living.

Stay true to the things that you need. Simplify. You control what’s around you. Eliminate the distractions and unnecessary stuff. Live simply and abundantly.

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About Eric Ungs

Eric Ungs writes about a journey of intentional self growth, nudging you to let go; to give yourself permission to be vulnerable and honest with yourself so you can give your best self to others. Author of 10 Incredible Ways to Live a Fulfilling and Joyful Life ebook.


  1. Logan Jenkins

    I agree with all of this, great post.

  2. Stumbled upon this post accidentally and it was actually the type of post I wish I would have found ages ago… Thank you deeply for sharing your wisdom in simplicity.

    1. Thank you so much for reading and the comment. It really means a lot and glad you saw value in it. Simplicity is a very simple idea, but difficult to do. Best of luck to you on your simplicity journey.

  3. well very right Eric.Its workable to make a life livable .Techonology has made our lives easier yet the excess of everything is always bad.We shoiuld try to give space to ourselves in life.

    1. Eric Ungs

      You’re absolutely right Rabia. Allowing for space and being mindful of our use and consumption. Thanks for reading 🙂

  4. jules

    This site has saved my life! I was spiralling into a downward hole of self delusion – believing that these possessions were my security and i couldn’t live without them. But its all just clutter!! It’s good to know there’s support out there for people like me. I appreciate the advice you are giving and am on my way to getting my life back. Thank you

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