Humor in Addition to Vulnerability

I enjoy humor and being silly. I love to laugh and especially love to make other’s laugh. Making other’s smile through humor is probably one of my favorite character traits about myself.

I enjoy taking an awkward moment, an uncomfortable setting, or a moment where there’s a void of silence and throw in some humor to ease the tension in the air.

Humor is this release that pulls people together. It loosens our grips. It lets our guard down to open up to our surroundings allowing connectivity to occur.

Keeping that shield on and laughter aren’t possible at the same time. The connection is weak. It’s either one or the other.

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Become More Present

Do you think about the day ahead, the deadlines, projects, meetings; while driving? Do you worry and stress over an email you sent days ago that didn’t get a response? Do you feel the urge to check your phone while in a middle of a conversation or when spending time with your family?

Distractions are all around us. We fixate on the past and the future at the expense of the present. Tweet this

I would think about why certain things happened. My meandering mind on the past then created scenarios on how to steer the future.

Release Your Inner Ramblings

Writing is a major component of my self growth journey. It’s the foundation of being intentional.

Though, as much as I’d like to, I don’t write every single day. I set out to do so, absolutely, but with the longer summer days and beautiful weather we find ourselves outside longer, playing. Therefore my writing isn’t as consistent.

Lately, however, as I’ve been neglecting it it’s also what I’ve been needing most.

Wake Your Sleeping Muse

These past couple of weeks have been unproductive, in terms of my writing. Writing typically is a daily activity for me. Though recently, it’s been scattered.

Which, from time-to-time, is okay to let go from all expectations of needing to pump out writing each day.

But, the mindset I was having was filled with excuses. I was extremely tired so I am catching up on my rest or I just wasn’t feeling inspired so I didn’t feel compelled to write.

Then I realized how the muse works. She’s quite strategic like that.

Purposeless Play

Growing up, our lives revolved around playing.

Whether it was riding bikes, building forts, playing sports or something entirely made up. We immersed ourselves in play that served no purpose.

I recently listened to a podcast about how play is such an indispensable component of being human.

When children play it builds their mental capacity and character for a number of different things, that last a lifetime; creativity, empathy, compassion, trust, irony, problem solving.

Your Most Valuable Asset

How do you spend your time? Are you intentional about what you choose to do with your time? How are you going to spend the next hour?

Prior to committing to this journey of intentional self growth I would go through the motions of filling the void of time each day; yard work, cleaning the house, watching Netflix, engaging online.

Not that there is anything wrong with these things, it’s just, I wasn’t being mindful, or intentional, about the things that I actually wanted to be doing.

I was so numb to who I was, I didn’t even know what those things were either.

The Foundation to Selflessness

Selflessness is not about you, it’s about those around you. It’s the opposite of selfishness.

You think less about yourself and more about others. You’re generous, kind, you show love and are compassionate. You have a deep concern for the well-being of others.

The pursuit to selflessness needs to have a foundation

It starts with being selfish.

Sometimes Your Worst Times Become Your Best Times

This is a guest post originally published on The Change Blog.

Even your worst times have value and can become, in retrospect, your best times. —Andy Andrews, The Noticer

I remember a year ago, the pounding, the darkness, the pain that I was feeling. I felt like I was about to rupture. I had it all locked up tight within me, the feelings, the stubbornness, pride, ego, humility; my truth.

I got to a point when it felt like my heart was beating and pumping outside of my chest. The stress and anxiety were taking a toll on me physically, all stemming from my emotional baggage.

I am Flawed

Four months ago I stumbled across Joshua Becker’s post titled The Freedom of Authenticity (And 7 of My Biggest Flaws). Upon reading it I felt a connection of deep truth; his, and my own. A truth within me, of my greatest flaws, and a sense of belonging; that it was okay to share.

My fears of perceptions got in the way of voicing my truth

Part of this journey of self growth is being honest with yourself and with others. It’s being vulnerable to the core of how you feel, not how you think you feel, but allowing your feelings to speak through the written word; without judgement.

This journey of intentional self growth is about letting go. But that doesn’t make it any easier to share.